This week our “Space to Think” Quote comes from the beginning of Volume 1:
“Mothers owe a ‘thinking love’ to their Children.––‘The mother is qualified,” says Pestalozzi, “and qualified by the Creator Himself, to become the principal agent in the development of her child; … and what is demanded of her is––a thinking love … God has given to the child all the faculties of our nature, but the grand point remains undecided––how shall this heart, this head, these hands be employed? to whose service shall they be dedicated? A question the answer to which involves a futurity of happiness or misery to a life so dear to thee. Maternal love is the first agent in education.’
We are waking up to our duties and in proportion as mothers become more highly educated and efficient, they will doubtless feel the more strongly that the education of their children during the first six years of life is an undertaking hardly to be entrusted to any hands but their own. And they will take it up as their profession––that is, with the diligence, regularity, and punctuality which [we] bestow on [our] professional labours.
That the mother may know what she is about, may come thoroughly furnished to her work, she should have something more than a hearsay acquaintance with the theory of education, and with those conditions of the child’s nature upon which such theory rests” (p. 2-3).
In your “space to think” consider the following:
- What area of your family life is most in need of “a thinking love” right now?
- Is there a time of day that is troublesome for your children?
- A routine that’s not working? Morning habits, bedtime habits, cleaning up after a meal, returning home from an outing, emptying sports bags, book bags, etc
- A physical space that creates issues: an overstuffed closet, a pile of toys in a playroom, the lack of a place for mother or children to be alone to think, pray, read?
- A conflict between siblings? Between parent and child?
- Are hearts, heads, and hands duly employed each day?
- How could you deal with this issue with diligence, regularity and punctuality that you would use to tackle a “professional” problem?
- Are you furnished with the training you would need to handle the issue?
- What would make your action or resolve “a thinking love” for your child, rather than just a thinking action or just a loving one?
When I had my first baby, I would often call my husband at work, upset about some issue I was having with my little one. I was overwhelmed and tired and lonely and wanted to do it ALL the RIGHT way! I would call and go on and on and on..! And finally one day, he kindly stopped me and said,
“Amy, you are a creative and intelligent woman, I think you can solve this problem.”
I was stunned!
But he was right, I had just left a teaching position where I dealt with over 100 students a day and faced many difficult issues. When a problem would arise, I would tackle it with creativity and intelligence. Why hadn’t I thought to do that with my little one?
Our families don’t need our fretting and complaining–they need our “thinking love”!
To read more about “Space to Think,” check out the first post in the series: