When we discuss mother culture, it seems we focus on our minds and souls, but I’m finding that here, when we discuss the home, I am appealing to your physical senses. In our homes, whether we do so with intention or haphazardly, we are in the midst of using all of our senses. From the type of flooring that your feet touch first thing in the morning, to the smell of dinner cooking in the oven, the music you play, the breeze coming in the open window, to the sound of the birds at the feeder outside – each of these has a small, but steady effect on your day and your daily satisfaction. Now, this is far from saying that we need picture perfect homes in order to be satisfied! Quite the contrary – your home doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. (I love that book. Freeing to the spirit of any perfectionist!)
“[Smell] might be the means of giving Mansoul a great deal of pleasure, because there are many faint, delightful odours in the world, like the odour of a box-hedge, of lime-trees in flower, of bog-myrtle, which he might carry, and thus add to the pleasure of life..” – Charlotte Mason, Vol. 4, p. 26
Smells, delightful or disgusting, and everything in between give our home a certain atmosphere. So often, a certain smell will bring on a surge of memory in a person and we are transported back to a moment back in time. Give a moment this week to what smells you would like associated with your home – it could be as simple as baking each Saturday afternoon, winter stews that cook all afternoon, dried lavender kept in the linen closet or planted outside a window, hiking in the pine forest, the list goes on and on… Think about how you can use natural and delightful smells in your home to enhance the surroundings.
“Those persons whose senses are the most keen and delicate are the most alive and get most interest out of life; so it is worth while to practise our senses; to shut our eyes, for example, and learn the feel of different sorts of material, different sorts of wood, metal, leaves of trees, different sorts of hair and fur––in fact, whatever one comes across.” – Charlotte Mason, Vol. 4, p. 27
Textures too are so key, yet so often so taken for granted. In Charlotte’s time, synthetic fibers were not yet invented, and so she waxes poetic about the beauty of wool and its delightful properties as well as the uses of cotton and flax. While I’m sure she wouldn’t begrudge us a light and effective raincoat rather than a wool one for our drizzly nature walks, it did make me think a bit more about the clothing and fabrics that I use in my home. There is little more delightful than cool cotton sheets in summertime, or brushed cotton flannel ones for those long winter nights! The feeling of linen breezing over the skin in hot weather makes it clear why it is so popular in equatorial countries, and the delight of a warm, woolen sweater is unsurpassed when out in cool weather. Textures then, of course, go beyond the fabrics that touch our skin. Consider textures in your food – while white breads are easy to pick up on the store shelf, I would encourage you to find a bakery (or attempt one yourself!) that offers a delightful bread with seeds and grains in a chewy, flavorful, crusty loaf. It needs no sugary topping or layers of filling – that bread is simply perfect with a smear of butter and cup of tea. Extend this line of thought to your other meals – which meal is the one you are most likely to reach for a processed food rather than the more natural one out of ease or convenience? Perhaps this is a place to partner with an older child and teach them how to help you and how to experience the textures of simple, but wholesome food preparation.
“Then, as you listen more, you hear more. The chirp of the grasshoppers becomes so noisy that you wonder you can hear yourself speak for it; then the bees have it all to themselves in your hearing; then you hear the hum or the trumpet of smaller insects, and perhaps the tinkle and gurgle of a stream. The quiet place is full of many sounds, and you ask yourself how you could have been there without hearing them. That just shows you how Hearing may sleep at his post. Keep him awake and alive; make him try to hear and know some new sound every day without any help from sight. It is rather a good plan to listen with shut eyes.” – Charlotte Mason, Vol. 4, p. 30
Lastly, let’s take a minute to think about the sounds of your home. Perhaps it is best to take a minute to sit and simply listen to what the actual sounds are, and then assess which we like and which we could do without. I personally wish I were better at identifying birds by ear, so I attempt to lure them close to my windows with multiple bird feeders and to have open windows whenever I can. I also will say that the loud purring of my cat is a sound I dearly love and makes a family read aloud or movie night that much more cozy. On the flip side, I dislike my phone alarms and so when I try to keep to fifteen minute lessons, I found it difficult to keep time while managing a 1- and 3-year-old and trying to watch the clock. I found silent sand timers to be our solution. They are beautiful and don’t add to the unpleasant noises in our home. For this same reason, I don’t keep beeping, honking, or loud toys in our home. I would simply go crazy and I am assuming that when my children are adults they will not miss that honking car, but will appreciate a sane mother. I am working on Charlotte’s advice to keep my skill at listening “awake and alive” when we head into nature as well. All too often, there is talking going on, but I am trying to encounter and enjoy the silence of the hikers so we can hear the concerto of the birds, trees, streams, and insects. What sounds do you love or could do without?